Board Thread:Survivor 41: Phi Pan Nam/@comment-5064044-20191011020817/@comment-43601271-20191011173450

Hey Kyle! Thanks so much that’s really nice of you to say, I really enjoyed talking to you too and getting to know you, even though we never really voted together during the merge. In terms of being “In charge” of the alliance I was in or being the brains, while I would love to say “Yes, absolutely!”  I don’t think I can. To explain, one of the biggest things I try to avoid while playing is to be a controlling asshole who goes around to his friends and dictates or forces what I want on to everyone every single round. I think that’s an easy way to just piss people off and get a target on your early. Yes, I had a lot of ideas throughout the game on who I wanted to work with each round, and who I personally preferred to get votes. And yes, I would present these ideas to the people I was working with in each round, for most of the merge this would have been with Anthony, Jason, and Shane. However, I would always ask what people thought of my ideas, not “Hey this is a plan -  we doing it”. I always wanted people to feel comfortable with me. I would also encourage them to tell me what they preferred, so we could have a good discussion and come to an agreement together. Now did a lot of votes still go my way, yes absolutely. I would say aside from the Derek and Alex votes, the person who I thought should have gone home did. However, when people in my alliance wanted to vote in a way I didn’t like, I would try to make sure I would still be safe and fine the next round, but not “poke the bear”. In the alliance I would say I was a “do-er” if that makes sense. Like if Shane for example came to me and said something like “We need to see where Anthony’s head is at”  I’d go talk to him. If I wanted to see what people outside my alliance were doing I’d go talk to them. If people wanted me to suggest a name to someone, I would go talk to them. While I know Shane also did this a lot, especially in the late game, I feel like for a lot of the early merge I was the person going around and actively trying to get insight from every single player every round, which proved invaluable to keep me and my allies ahead. In terms of leadership, maybe people looked to me as a leader or thought I was, but I never really tried to be. I always wanted my alliances to be as equal as I could make it, and I tried to do the same here, so I personally never viewed myself or anyone else as a leader. I hope that answers your questions!